Decision making can be a difficult task. In fact, sometimes it seems that the less important the choices are the more difficult it is to make the decision. What to eat for dinner? What movie to go see? So many choices and so many ways we can be swayed. Serious decisions however, are sometimes easier to make. Should I go visit my family this Christmas? Should I take that new job offer? This is because often times the more serious decisions involve our morals, ethics and core belief systems which tend not to change drastically over time.
In the decision making process the mind scrambles for a formula to use when presented with a choice. The formula is usually geared towards the best outcome for the person making the decision. This process is based on the evolutionary trait of self-preservation. However, the formula also has other add-ons which depend on how and in what environment that individual was raised and the development of their character and identity as a person. What their opinions are on right/wrong, good/ bad, and where they draw those lines. Logic also plays a role in the decision-making process, although the degree to which it influences the decisions varies based on the importance that it plays in opposition to their core beliefs. For example, take deciding whether or not to take a new job offer which would involve the individual being away from their kids for prolonged periods of time. This decision will heavily depend on what value the individual places on the family structure, love, as well as whether or not they can financially afford not to take it.
Indecisiveness can be frustrating for everyone involved. Often times, making simple decisions such as doing laundry, cleaning, washing dishes, and buying groceries are simple but daunting tasks. Thus, we tend to procrastinate and leave them to the unforeseeable future. This is because we think of these tasks as ‘things that should be done’ and therefor tend not to make the definite ‘decision’ to actually perform them. This in itself leads to us becoming frustrated with the incompletion of the tasks.
Decision making is a natural process for an uncluttered mind. If our mind was not so busy making sense of the clutter of various thoughts, ideas and fantasies that we tend to procure daily, it could easily make decisions that are in our benefit without tedious frustration. This is why it is so important to take time daily to process or ‘un-clutter’ one’s mind. Practices such as mindfulness, yoga, meditation, neurofeedback, journaling, or even a simple conversation about the thoughts that are weighing you down can go a long way in helping you feel lighter and your mind healthier.